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Jewelry can be beautiful to look at, fun to buy, and can make bold and revealing statements about you. Hear are some tips for greater enjoyment of your favorite gold and silver jewelry.

1. Never swim in a chlorinated pool while wearing gold and silver jewelry.
2. Always apply make-up, perfumes, oils or colognes before you put on your gold and silver jewelry
3. Keep both your skin and your gold and silver jewelry clean and free of oil.
4. Using an absorbent, abrasive-free body powder on areas that your gold and silver jewelry touches your skin can help with skin discoloration.
5. If you do have any skin discoloration you may need to move to a higher gold content. Say, from 14K gold jewelry to 18K jewelry.
6. Are your gold and silver chains all tied-up in knots? If so, here’s a nifty little trick for straightening them out. Dust your chain with a little talcum powder and then try to unknot it. If the knot is stubborn, place a small drop of baby oil on a sheet of wax paper. Lay the knot in the oil and work it out with two pins; then clean the chain as instructed below.
7. Don’t be afraid to wear gold and silver jewelry together. Artful use of accessories that use both metals provide an effective visual segue’ or bridge.
8. For daily cleaning it is recommended to use a simple jewelry polishing cloth that is impregnated with special jewelry cleaner. These are widely available and are very easy to use. Store your cloth in a plastic zip-lock bag, and keep in your jewelry drawer or armoire. It is a good idea to have one cleaning cloth for gold and one for silver.
9. For a Super Spring Cleaning of your gold and silver jewelry, mix 1cup of clean warm water with cup of ammonia. Soak your jewelry in this solution for about 15 minutes; gently scrub with a soft, clean toothbrush, then rinse in warm water. Air dry on an absorbent paper towel. When thoroughly dry, you may lightly buff with a soft flannel cloth.
10. If a ring gets stuck on your finger; spray the area surrounding the ring with Windex. Wiggle and twist the ring right off.
11. For a slightly more “in depth” cleaning you may want to use a liquid jewelry cleaner.
12. For cleaning badly tarnished silver, here’s a neat little trick.
    • Cover the inside bottom of a heat-proof glass dish on bowl with a piece of aluminum foil, shiny side up.
    • Place the tarnished silver in the bottom of the dish, contacting the aluminum foil.
    • Add 1 heaping tablespoon of baking soda, and then slowly pour boiling water to cover the piece. The tarnish will gradually collect on the aluminum foil.
    • Remove your silver, rinse thoroughly, and polish.

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Should you spy on your cheating husband or wife? You believe you see signs of a cheating spouse. The need to know whether your spouse is cheating and EXACTLY what kind of cheating is taking place is often strong. There are a number of reasons why the drive to spy is powerful. Here are seven:

1. Trust is a big reason, not of your partner, but yourself. Probably for some time you have sensed something is different or questioned the change of behavior in your partner. Perhaps you confronted your cheating husband or cheating wife and it was met with denial. This created a huge dilemma for you because a part of you was screaming, Hey, this doesn’t fit! I don’t believe it! To deny this part of you, which KNOWS the truth, creates a tremendous internal turmoil. If the truth as you suspect it is confirmed, you can take a deep breath and at least know that you can trust yourself. You are NOT CRAZY! Spying is a way to confirm your suspicions and trust more fully your gut feelings.

2. Spying on cheating husbands or cheating wives often helps the person feel connected to the partner who seems to be steadily moving away. It is a way of maintaining contact and having some sort of connection to this stranger who once was well known. Isn’t it like the game of hide-and-seek we used to play as children? Sometimes there, sometimes gone. At least it is a game, and a game is at least some contact, some involvement. You miss the connection and try to find someway to maintain the ties.

3. Spying on a cheating spouse may be an honest attempt to bring resolution to the relationship. You want to know the truth. You sense something does not fit. You suspect there is a breach of something. You want to know what you are up against. You are not willing to stand pat and wait. You are a person of action. You want some sort of movement. You want to get on with the relationship. You want to get on with your life. You know that it is difficult maintaining your sanity when there might be this huge elephant that no one is talking about. You want to know the truth, face the truth, deal with the truth and be free.

4. Cheating husbands or cheating wives often, unfortunately, lead to the demise of marital relationships. If you strongly suspect this to be true for your situation you will want to protect yourself legally. If there is betrayal, lying and deception regarding a third party, other forms of deception may exist financially or in other areas of the relationship. Having “evidence” does have some impact in some court systems. Whether you need to protect yourself legally depends on the kind of affair facing you and the character of your spouse. Please read through my “7 Reasons For an Affair” to determine the situation that faces you. If your spouse is someone who can’t say no, doesn’t want to say no or is acting out rage, please make sure to take protective steps.

5. You may want to protect yourself medically if you suspect you have a cheating husband or wife. You might be concerned about sexually transmitted diseases. Your health may be at stake. And, of course, you need to know. Shame, guilt or self-absorption may be so powerful in your partner that it gets in the way of responsibly informing you of the medical dangers when another partner is sexually brought into your relationship.

6. Seeing signs of a cheating spouse often mean secrets. Secrets are work! There is not much written about the impact of a secret in a relationship, but believe me, in over two decades of working with strained relationships day in and day out, keeping a secret has a powerful impact. It is the proverbial elephant sitting in the room that no one dare talk about. People take extraordinary measures to tip toe around it, but it IS there. Emotionally, you can’t miss it. Secrets are a drain. If the secret persists, its impact is felt in subtle but insidious ways. People become physically ill, sometimes seriously so. People become depressed. People start doing crazy things. Children start acting out, stop achieving, become listless or exhibit a host of other symptoms. Children, or the next generation, often carry the emotional load. You want to spy because you don’t want to live with a secret. You want to discover the truth. You want to feel the freeing power of the exposed secret and the opportunity it offers for healing, resolution, a rich relationship and a productive life.

7. Some of us like drama. Soap opera scenarios and adrenaline based lives are a hallmark of our society. We get juiced or pumped up entering into emotional relational triangles that offer intrigue. Without adrenaline, life seems boring or mundane. Perhaps an unspoken reason for an affair may be to fan the fire? Or, you may spy on your cheating spouse to keep the sense of being alive a part of your life.

Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach, has helped hundreds of couples over the past two decades heal from the agony of extramarital affairs and survive infidelity. Visit his website at: http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com

Something that is usually found at the very bottom of the pile when planning a college career is medical insurance for students. At that age, the last thing on a student’s mind is how they will handle insurance needs. Let’s face it, in your twenties you will usually tend to think that you are immortal so naturally you will not suffer from illness. Alas, this is rarely the case no matter how healthy an individual may be. The right student medical insurance isn’t simply a good plan, it is really a necessity.

Students who are covered by a parent’s insurance policy are by and large included up until their 23rd birthday. For individuals who don’t currently have cover through a parent’s insurance, an important part in budgeting for going to school must be obtaining affordable medical insurance. So what is important in medical insurance designed specifically for students? What’s a deductible? It is a minimum annual sum you must pay before your medical benefits beginning, much like an auto insurance policy. For example, should your deductible be $500, you have to pay that amount prior to receiving any financial benefits connected with the plan. What does co-pay entail? Once you meet your deductible, nearly all plans ask that you pay a part of the cost of every visit to the physician, medicine or procedure. This is termed a co-pay. What’s the area of cover? Many plans are HMO or Partnership for Prescription Assistance. This can mean certain specialists might be excluded from your list of health professionals or not be covered by your health insurance policy. A detailed list of approved health providers are provided with most insurance plans, before you make your selection please consider the choices thoroughly.

What is catastrophic coverage? There is frequently a restriction on student medical insurance plans particularly as far as catastrophic illnesses are concerned, the coverage included in most student health insurance is generally lower than a standard insurance plan.

So what are the limitations? Restrictions are very commonplace in most college student health insurance. It is really important to read over any insurance policy thoroughly to check out exactly what is and isn’t covered.

Have all your health insurance details secure everywhere. Illnesses are not just impossible to anticipate, they are also likely to take place at an inconvenient time. Make sure to be familiar with the details particular to your policy even should you be covered by a family policy.

Q. My company publishes a monthly employee newsletter. My boss asked me to write a funny quiz. I’m not exactly a stand-up comic. Help!

A. Ah, the funny quiz. Lucky you! It’s not often that a company has an official sense of humor that they are willing to display for all to read. This is going to be a great assignment for you!

A funny quiz is typically one where the questions and answers have no real purpose other than to make the quiz taker laugh. Although almost anything goes, there are some taboo subjects. Off hand I’d say that anything that pokes fun at a specific person, or groups of people, as well as anything that’s anti-semitic, racial, sexual, political, or religious should be off limits. Remember, what one person thinks is funny can offend someone else. Even seemingly innocuous subjects like “hillbilly” or “redneck” jokes might not be funny to someone who lives in the mountains or the deep South (like I do).

You can think of a funny quiz as a series of one-liners with multiple-choice punch lines. Because you are writing for a company publication you have a built-in “affinity group” as there is bound to be some common subjects that are company related and could be made into something funny.

For example, if you work for a software development company then you might have a question that asks:

What’s longer: A CEO’s week or a programmer’s week?

If you’re not laughing then you have never had a programmer tell you that the project will be ready in a week.

You need to walk a fine line even when using subjects like this in your funny quiz. Say that your company just posted a 4th quarter loss because a new software product missed its launch date by a “programmer’s week”. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to determine that you are about to tick off a lot of people if you add that question to your funny quiz.

Try to avoid wornout jokes or cliches. A funny quiz should be funny, not lame. For example, still on the software train of thought, a question like…

Q. How many programmers does it take to change a lightbulb? A. None. They don’t do hardware.

…is older than the mystery meat in that Tupperware container in the back of the lunchroom refrigerator. No one is going to laugh at that one. No laughing = not a funny quiz!

The best thing to do is to keep an eye out for humorous, safe things to poke fun at and then write a funny quiz question. My advice is to start right now and don’t wait until one hour before deadline. The only thing that’s less funny than a lame funny quiz is no funny quiz at all!

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Brian Fong run the popular quiz site http://www.QuizFaq.com
Quiz Faq – Your solutions for the quiz.

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You can multiply your ability to persuade by 400%, whether your audience is 1 or 100. Web-based presentations add a visual element to teleconferences. Instead of just talking to prospects, you can simultaneously show them and tell them. According to a Wharton Business School study, this dual mode communication makes your message up to four times more effective than using just your voice.
Present from your office:

Web-based presentations can be as effective as in-the-same-room presentations, but are free from the costs and frustrations involved in traveling.

Talk to your prospects using your current telephone orfor large groups a rented bridge line. You and your audience view your visuals using a standard web browser and Internet connection.
You control what’s displayed on your audience’s computer screen! Your screen contains a menu listing available visuals. You control presentation content, pace, and sequence. You can spend as much or as little time as desired on each visual. You can show all of your visuals, or just those needed to respond to attendee concerns or questions.
No limits on audience size:

No audience is too large or too small for a web-based presentation! You can easily and cost-effectively show and tell 1-to-1 as you speak to individual prospects, or you can present to hundreds at a time.
No advance scheduling:

Your visuals are available 24/7. No reservations are required to present. Convert any telephone call into a presentation by inviting your caller to immediately access your online visuals while talking.
More than one set of visuals can be prepared and ready for instant use.
Preparing your visuals:

Use Microsoft PowerPoint to create your presentation. Presentations can be as simple or complex as desired.
In addition to creating visuals for your “core” presentation, consider creating “contingency” visuals available for showing as needed. This permits you to customize your presentation on the basis of questions from the audience or callers.

You can easily add and edit visuals. This permits you to customize the title or specific visuals with your client’s name or client-specific contents and prices.

After completing your presentation, upload it to the server where your visuals will be available online to you and your clients, prospects, or employees.
Access:

Only those who know the specific location of your presentation on the web will be able to access your visuals. You can communicate the URL during the phone conversation or you can send it to a group via e-mail before an event.

Unless you are also online, visitors will not be able to navigate through your presentation.
Applications:

Any presentation task you would normally accomplish in-person can now be done on the phone and online:

• Demonstrations. Do a better job of describing the benefits of your product or service by showing as well as telling. Interactively walk prospects through the steps you’ll use to help them solve a pressing problem or achieve a desired goal.

• Previews. Increase attendance at teleseminars and live events by previewing the contents and benefits of attending.

• Proposals. Deliver client presentations in an interactive environment. Use your voice to build enthusiasm and address concerns or questions as they arise.

• Continuous contact. Keep in close touch with clients and prospects while helping them make informed purchase decisions and best use of their purchase.

• Training. Keep employees and your sales staff motivated and up to date on your latest products and services.

It’s all about relationships. Web-based presentations are just another way you can put today’s low-cost technology to work building and maintaining close ties with customers and prospects. At low cost, you can communicate with added impact from your office.

Let Roger C. Parker show you how to attract qualified prospects and retaining clients by creating the right messages and choosing the right tools. Visit www.onepagenewsletters.com or call Roger at 603-742-9673 for information

Everything was great.

We had been dating for 6 months. We shared the same interests, felt very at ease together, had (often)
discussed future plans and had even spent some of the holidays together. Our relationship seemed right on track
and just right in general.

Then, without warning, he said he “needs some time to think and figure things out.” He stopped calling and rarely
returned my calls. When he did, I was often met with silence on the other end of the line. When I asked “what
happened”, I just got a verbal run around of excuses about how busy he is and/or how much stress he is under
right now.

What happened? What did I do? I don’t know what to think.

Does the above scenario sound at all familiar? If so, you can relate to being confused and stunned over the sudden
change in a boyfriend’s/girlfriend’s behavior.

Now think about this – What if your relationship wasn’t what you thought it was? What if unspoken issues had
existed all along? What if there were signs you chose to ignore or just didn’t see? Are any of these possible?

Probably.

This sudden change in a couple’s relationship is reported quite a bit by individuals who have just broken up with
a significant other. Unfortunately, it leaves the person who has been “dumped” with feelings of low self-esteem,
regret, inadequacy and anger.

There is often no real closure, as the couple is never able (willing) to talk through what went wrong or was never right
with their relationship.

So, how can you know what the problem was and hope to avoid a repeat of this hurtful experience? You can do this
by examining your failed relationship and gaining insight and understanding about what just wasn’t right between you.

In order to assist you with this; I am providing a basic framework of the relationship stages a couple must pass
through TOGETHER in order to get to a place of shared intimacy and commitment. If either person’s feelings
change before, during or after one of these stages; it is not necessarily the “fault” of the other individual. It is simply
a statement about the individuals’ rightness (or not) for each other. It is also a reflection of each individual’s relationship
readiness and ability to handle long-term, committed intimacy.

How an individual handles their changing feelings and resultant behavior toward the other is a subject for another article.

Relationships have stages. We have all read articles and books by authors who have come up with their own unique
number or names for these. I will try to take a very basic approach to this and keep it simple and as universal as
possible.

Attraction

This is the first stage. It is physical, intellectual and emotional – on a very surface level. Girl sees boy and vice versa. They
flirt, talk and get a very basic sense of the other. They are usually responding to a physical pull. He/she is cute,
funny, charming, interesting to talk to, etc.

Without attraction, first dates wouldn’t happen. It can therefore be assumed that the other person finds us attractive if
we have gotten to a first date.

In a way, this is the easy one. We are unknowns to each other. Things progress from this point or they do not. Hurt
feelings are minimal. We usually chalk up rejection to; “I’m not his type”. There is no need to analyze or wonder
what went wrong.

If both people feel a strong enough level of attraction continues to exist after a few dates, they usually move along to
stage two. However, if one finds the other has unattractive characteristics or behaviors, this can lead to an abrupt change
in the relationship.

Remember, these behaviors or characteristics would be ones that would manifest in the very early stage of dating.
Some examples: frequently late, never offers to pay, dresses or grooms sloppily, rude to waitress, etc.

Romantic Relating

In this second stage, couples begin to test out the idea of themselves as a unit. Dating is no longer brand new. It is more
comfortable and predictable. Sharing romantic dinners and exciting special interests are typical dates during this new
and fun time in a growing relationship.

During this stage, flowers are given for no special reason and loving cards are slipped back and forth with
words like “thinking of you”. It’s a happy carefree time, when lovers tend to idealize, romanticize and overlook
that which can be right in front of them. The relationship seems effortless and spontaneous. Affection is shared openly
and frequently. One’s partner seems perfect. There is rarely conflict during this period. The partners often share
the unrealistic belief that their relationship is so special and unique that it will always stay this way.

This stage can last from three or four months up to more than a year. It is actually the shortest stage that any
long-term relationship goes through. It is also the one we wish we could hold on to forever and long for when it is gone.
This is the stage that love poems speak about. It is also believed (falsely) by many that this is what long-term
committed love will always be like.

Many relationships begin to stumble at the end of this period. For that is when reality begins to set in. As partners
begin to experience some disagreement, conflict and/or shared challenges- the relationship shifts as do the
dynamics between the partners.

Though many relationships move past this stage, a number do not. Why? There are many reasons. These can include:

* lack of readiness for the challenges of the next stage

* issues with commitment and fidelity

* immature beliefs about what relationships should be

* being stuck on an idealized, romanticized notion of love

If one of the partners is not ready for a less than perfect and more demanding stage of love, they will exhibit this in their
behavior, language and overall level of openness and availability towards the other.

This is when the couple begins to think more seriously of a future with each other. The focus tends to be;
how well do we get along, do we share similar interests and do I want to date this person exclusively?

Growth Through Negotiation

This is a very challenging and growing time in all relationship building. Reality comes into play as the couple
settles into the comfort and predictability of their togetherness. Little issues can become blown-up into large conflicts.
The individuals begin to compete for their share of control and their place in this growing union. Differences
can become highlighted instead of minimized.

This is often the period when couples experience their first fight. Hurt feelings can occur as that once loving
and completely accepting other person airs a criticism or voices annoyance or concern. Often, the individuals
believe it is the other person who needs to change.

This is where the need for (or lack of) communication, problem-solving and negotiating skills becomes apparent.
For without an adequate measure of these, disagreements can break down into screaming matches where
insults and recriminations are fired like missiles.

If the individuals can listen, be supportive of each other’s feelings, compromise and not lay blame, they have
a good chance of working through this stage and achieving a true intimacy. This does not mean they will share
all the same beliefs and opinions or that they will necessarily even like the other’s view. However, having and
showing respect is a cornerstone of a healthy relationship.

Not only will relationships fail without these relationship-building strengths, they can also abruptly end if
one of the partners decides that they don’t feel the same way about this person in their less than idealized
state. The reality may not be to their liking or just something they are not ready for in general. Either way,
they will pull back, present differently or disappear without warning. How they handle their changing feelings
is further information about their level of relationship readiness and maturity in general.

Intimacy

Intimacy is the reward that is gained when a couple has successfully worked through the difficult last stage of
negotiation. It is almost like a new coming together with much greater self (and other) awareness. This new information
can work to solidify the union or give one of both individuals enough new information about the other to require
a reassessment of their desire to remain together.

Each person looks at the other in their (naked) state and asks; “is this the person I want to be with”? Here their individual
differences are highlighted. The early romantic haze has cleared. What they have to offer to each other and to
a future life together comes into play.

This is a time when couples often begin to contemplate each other’s attributes in a more practical way.
They look at the other’s strengths and weaknesses. They evaluate each other’s potential as a future spouse,
parent, provider, caregiver, partner, etc.

Relationships can be tested more during this time. Infidelity is one dysfunctional way that some individuals
do this. Often, this leads to the end of the relationship.

When differences can be seen, aired and accepted, the couple has a good chance of moving on together
from this place. Essentially, they have decided they want to be with the other, warts and all.

When the behavior of one or both partners change, it is generally because they have made a conscious or
unconscious decision regarding the wrongness of the other for them or for the type of relationship they seek.

Commitment

This is the final stage of relationship building. Once individuals have reached this place, they are ready to
cement their bond. While much growth and work will lay ahead in a future life together, they are
ready to begin this life soon.

New challenges arise during each stage, and will happen here as well. However, if the couple has successfully
worked through the previous stages, they should have many of the tools they need.

The external problems and pressures that come with life will test their resolve and commitment over the
years. They may need to reassess, re-negotiate and renew their feelings and commitment. Fortunately,
they will be in possession of the basic tools required.

If they choose well to begin with, they should be successful.

As you evaluate your failed relationship, note the stage you were in when the change occurred. Chances are that
the necessary level of readiness and maturity was not present in one or both of you. Perhaps one of you
decided that this is not the kind of partner or relationship I am seeking.

This new information and insight should help you to choose a future partner who is better suited to you and desirous
of the same kind of relationship that you are.

Toni Coleman, MSW is a licensed psychotherapist, relationship coach and founder of http://www.consum-mate.com. As a recognized expert, Toni has been quoted in many local and national publications including: The Chicago Tribune, The Orlando Sentinel, New York Daily News, Indianapolis Star and Newsweek newspapers and Family Circle, Woman’s Day, Cosmo Style, Tango, Men’s Health, Star (regularly quoted body language expert), and Nirvana magazines. She has been featured on abcnews.com; discovery.health.com; aolnews.com; MSN.com, Match.com and planetearthradio.com. Toni offers dating help and relationship advice as the weekly love and dating coach on the KTRS Radio Morning Show (St. Louis, MO) and through her syndicated column, “Dear Dating Coach.”
Her newsletter, The Art Of Intimacy, helps over fifty-five hundred subscribers with its dating and relationship advice. Toni is a member of The International Coach Federation, The International Association Of Coaches and The National Association of Social Workers.

A lot of individuals handle monetary shortfall at some juncure in their lives Because of this, outstanding debt will likely crop up. An individual can confront these challenges because of work loss, divorce, sudden loss of a family or just plain bad individual cash management. Small companies characteristically confront these issues inside the first 2 years of operation. At fault for a business shutting down can extend from increased competition, accidents, loss of sizable clients to name a couple. No matter the origin, bad debt might lead to bankruptcy. However, there are alternatives to bankruptcy that might save your personal credit or your business credit.

Insolvency is defined as the inability of a person or an organization to cover monies owed to creditors. If filed, the debt holder (your firm or yourself) is obliged to surrender all exemption free assets and real property for cut-rate sale. While personal assets are protected, you must likewise subscribe a definite share of your earned pay to the creditors based upon an agreed upon repayment program. Your FICO score will be about zero for years, meaning that you won’t be in condition to find financing for any personal or business for a long time.

Troubles such as these may induce headaches. Bankruptcy judicial proceedings are exceedingly harsh and can lead to unhappy thoughts and actions. Looking for positive ways out of a woeful situation before you get to bankruptcy court is better. Debt negotiation perhaps could be that choice for you.

perhaps you are curious why a financier will wish to work with yourself to resolve the debt remember that negotiation is an alternative for them too. In particular insolvency judgments a creditor holding non-securitized debt might possibly obtain nothing at all. Still, when their client makes out a settlement the bank will at least get back part, if not all, of the debt the creditors possess. Remember also that when added up the interest that has been sent in before along with the late charges and over-limit penalties the lenders might have billed, the creditor could be satisfied even before the liquidation.

Debt negotiation is a reasonable alternative for people attempting to search for assistance with debt issues. When just a single, solitary monthly installment is missed, nearly all lines of credit obtain an extremely oversize rate hike that then will weigh on the present account balance due. This interest rate hike will make it a degree more difficult to pay off the credit card in the following weeks which will most likely put your debt spinning out of reach. Debt settlement can permit you to pay back your debt with just a part of what you owe without ruining your FICO score for 10 years.

The reason for the apparently absurd question in the title is the remarkable research conducted at the University of Sheffield by neurology professor the late Dr. John Lorber.

When Sheffield’s campus doctor was treating one of the mathematics students for a minor ailment, he noticed that the student’s head was a little larger than normal. The doctor referred the student to professor Lorber for further examination.

The student in question was academically bright, had a reported IQ of 126 and was expected to graduate. When he was examined by CAT-scan, however, Lorber discovered that he had virtually no brain at all.

Instead of two hemispheres filling the cranial cavity, some 4.5 centimetres deep, the student had less than 1 millimetre of cerebral tissue covering the top of his spinal column. The student was suffering from hydrocephalus, the condition in which the cerebrospinal fluid, instead of circulating around the brain and entering the bloodstream, becomes dammed up inside.

Normally, the condition is fatal in the first months of childhood. Even where an individual survives he or she is usually seriously handicapped. Somehow, though, the Sheffield student had lived a perfectly normal life and went on to gain an honours degree in mathematics.

Professor Lorber (who was a member of the committee sitting to decide who should be awarded the Nobel Prize) identified several hundred people who have very small cerebral hemispheres but who appear to be normal intelligent individuals. Some of them he describes as having ‘no detectable brain’, yet they have scored up to 120 on IQ tests.

No-one knows how people with ‘no detectable brain’ are able to function at all, let alone to graduate in mathematics, but there are a couple theories. One idea is that there is such a high level of redundancy of function in the normal brain that what little remains is able to learn to deputise for the missing hemispheres.

Another, similar, suggestion is the old idea that we only use a small percentage of our brains anyway perhaps as little as 10 per cent. The trouble with these ideas is that more recent research seems to contradict them. The functions of the brain have been mapped comprehensively and although there is some redundancy there is also a high degree of specialisation the motor area and the visual cortex being highly specific for instance. Similarly, the idea that we ‘only use 10 per cent of our brain’ is a misunderstanding dating from research in the 1930s in which the functions of large areas of the cortex could not be determined and were dubbed ’silent’, when in fact they are linked with important functions like speech and abstract thinking.

The other interesting thing about Lorber’s findings is that they remind us of the mystery of memory. At first it was thought that memory would have some physical substrate in the brain, like the memory chips in a PC. But extensive investigation of the brain has turned up the surprising fact that memory is not located in any one area or in a specific substrate. As one eminent neurologist put it, ‘memory is everywhere in the brain and nowhere.’ But if the brain is not a mechanism for classifying and storing experiences and analysing them to enable us to live our lives then what on earth is the brain for? And where is the seat of human intelligence? Where is the mind?

Lorber’s discovery is far from isolated. In researching my book ‘Alternative Science’ I found literally scores of such cases of scientific discoveries that are well-attested with strong direct laboratory evidence, and yet are ignored by conventional science. Many more such examples are also given on the Alternative Science Website.

Copyright Richard Milton 1994-2005

Richard Milton is a writer, journalist and broadcaster and author of five books including the controversial ‘Alternative Science’. His Alternative Science website at http://www.alternativescience.com contains many extraordinary examples of hard scientific evidence for anomalous phenomena being ignored.

Have you ever had someone attacking you and you can’t figure out why?
They may say it is because of something you said, did or wrote, yet you know that it had nothing to do with them.

This happens more than we realize. And knowing how to recognize it and how to deal with it, is important in business and life. Quite often, an angry or even violent reaction from another person is due to a conflict or perceived threat with his or her inner belief system. On a fundamental level, the information or action triggered fear for their survival.

You see, when our inner beliefs are challenged, when tend to go into protection mode. It can shut down our ability to think and respond clearly. And quite often, we are not even aware of what these inner beliefs are.

Many if not most of them were developed in our childhood when we were learning how to survive and how everyone around us did things.

This is why, you can have two or more people in the identical situation and they all react differently. It’s not the situation that’s good or bad, it is just the viewpoint of the person experiencing it.

When we look at these beliefs, we can find that many of them no longer serve us. One destructive belief that I have seen people hold is that they can’t be wrong, ever. It apparently is a death sentence to be or even appear to be wrong. So when someone else has a difference of an opinion, then it becomes about right / wrong as apposed to just being different.

I have seen people shake and go red when someone else gives a different perspective on an issue then what they thought. This is very destructive in business. It stops production, and destroys teamwork. It can cause other people to be nervous about saying or doing anything, especially if the reaction came from a boss, team leader or supervisor.

So, what do you do when some one is freaking at you?

Getting mad or shouting back rarely if ever resolves the situation. This will only escalate the situation. Neither will insulting them work, as they probably don’t even know the real reason for their reaction. As far as they are concerned in that moment, it is something that you said or did.

It is important to remain as calm as possible and ask, “Why are you angry?”
The answer at first will probably be about what you said or did. Then repeat the question and ask, “But why are you really mad? What is it about this that has you so upset?”

However, there are situations where it’s best to get away from the person for safety reasons. You can say that you would love to talk with them when they are calmer. It can often help to write a letter to the person, because when they are angry they are not listening anyway.

Most people don’t even understand that they are reacting to something else and if given a chance; they will realize that it had little or nothing to do with the person that they are focusing their anger on.

It also helps to have a third party suggest that the person look at the real issue. Many psychologists have stated that people are never angry for the reason they think. And when they can look at it and communicate with themselves and others about it, they can then make real inroads at never being controlled by the destructive belief in the future.

Actually, we can all do this. Start noting when you are reacting instead of responding and then ask yourself, “Why do I feel strongly about this?” When we take the time to make insights into our own behaviour, we can release the control the destructive beliefs hold over us. Then we can have a happier more productive life.

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